Monday, November 24, 2008

Update on the B*** Job



Thanks to all of you who've reached out to me during all of this breastfeeding hoopla. I thought I'd post an update and also some new pics of Elizabeth.

Things continue to go up and down with the feedings. But I feel like, overall, the line has a positive slope. Having her sleep upright seems to be working well. She, dare I say it, has even slept through the night a few times. I'm still off dairy, though I have my doubts about its effectiveness. And we're keeping up with the Zantac, though it constipates the poor thing. On a positive note, Elizabeth has now successfully taken a bottle and, in fact, we're alternating feedings between bottles and breast to help her with her "pacing," as my lactation consultant put it. Sometimes I don't understand what she's talking about (and I do ask!) but I just keep going with it. I've also discovered the joys of nursing lying down. Though I still can't do it on my side, Elizabeth does pretty well with me on my back and her on my stomach. It keeps me relaxed and her too. Sometimes a little too relaxed—she's always falling asleep. But life goes on. Some days she eats well, others she doesn't. Some days I handle it well, others I don't. But she's healthy, I'm healthy, and life is good and that's what I have to keep focusing on. My LC did say, when I asked if I was making too big a deal of things, "Wellllllll...I don't think that things were as bad as you thought they were. But there's nothing wrong with wanting to help your baby be as happy as possible." Very dipolmatic. In fact, as I've discussed my issues with other moms, I find that the situation could be MUCH MUCH worse. So thank you to everyone for your support. I'll still be checking her weight every week. But I think it's time to accept things as they are and move on.

In other news, Elizabeth seems to enjoy bubble baths and didn't cry at all last night. Here's proof:
We're pretty much in love with this kid. Adam keeps taking pictures of her, like every night. This is my favorite so far:
I think she's deciding if she wants to cry or pass gas. Or maybe both.

I also love this picture. I unwrapped her swaddle one day when I thought she'd slept too long. (I know, I know. Never wake a sleeping baby. I'm a new mom; I'm allowed to be a little anal.) Anyways, this was the position I found her in:

All of a sudden, I could picture her in the womb—inside me. She was inside me? Wow.

P.S. At her weight check a week after we met with the lactation consultant, she had gained 10 oz! For a grand total of 8 lbs. 8 oz. Go Elizabeth!

Friday, November 21, 2008

Star Wars: Robot Chicken

So funny.
Star Wars spoofs directed by Seth Green. Check it out.
Episode 1 is online.
Personal favorites include:





















Asteroid field failure.
















Yo Mama battle.














New line of work.

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

One Month

Better late than never...

Today is Elizabeth's one month birthday. And what a month! Adam and I both agree that it feels MUCH longer than just 30 days. But we love our little angel. Here's a few pictures to commemorate the day:
In her swing, fascinated by the flying fish.

This is how she sleeps—swaddled in her favorite blanket and upright for the reflux. (The other blanket is to throw over her head to help her fall asleep.)

All bundled up to go outside. What a cutie!

Happy one month birthday, Elizabeth!

Sunday, November 16, 2008

My Boob Job


It's Sunday morning, 10:30 AM. Why am I not at church? Why am I sitting in a bathrobe with leaky "faucets" and nasty, matted hair, and no ability to take a nap?

Last week, I took Elizabeth to the pediatrician to be weighed and to discuss with her my concerns about E's eating habits. Sometimes, if I'm lucky, she'll stay on the breast for a whole 10 minutes and, with a lot of prompting, suck most of the time she's on. But a lot of times, she'll eat for five minutes then flip out, arch her back, scream like I'm torturing her, then take forever to settle down. And when she does settle down, if I so much as lower her back to nursing position, she wigs out again. Do I have nasty sour milk??? We suspected acid reflux, so the doctor put her on Zantac, but that didn't seem to be making a difference and was maybe constipating her. I wasn't sure if her strange eating habits were such a big deal or not, so hence the Dr. appointment.

I placed my little angel on the scale, the nurse moved the weights back and forth, then I just stared in shock as she told me: "Seven pounds, fourteen ounces." I asked her to try again. Nope, she was right. E had only gained 7 ounces in two weeks. And she weighed about the same as she did last week on the post office scale (minus clothes.) That's when I burst into tears and didn't stop crying through the whole appointment. The pediatrician assured me that Elizabeth was "thriving," but she suggested I see a lactation consultant. Then she asked how I was doing. More tears. However, thanks to this kind doctor's prompting, I'm working with the consultant, I've spoken with my midwife about my postpartum issues, I've started medication, and I have an appointment to see a psychiatrist next week. So I'm trying everything I can to get the support Elizabeth and I need. But will it help?

The lactation consultant is a warm, friendly, kind-of-granola-in-a-good-way, Jewish woman who works out of her home. She spent a nice long time w/ Elizabeth and me and was so kind and wise and wonderful. She kissed and caressed Elizabeth like she was her own grandchild. (Though she's barely grandmother age.) She determined, due to E's pattern of weight gain (tons at the beginning and now petering off) that she's got a weak suck and so we're doing exercises every time she eats. We massage her temples, squish her lips like a fish, tap around her lips, put in our finger to suck and fix her lips again to see if the suck gets stronger. I was skeptical at first but she assured me it would help. The consultant also saw E's baby acne (hence no pictures lately), and with that and her screaming at the breast, thinks she does indeed have reflux and it might be coupled with a dairy allergy. So no more dairy for mom and we're keeping up with the Zantac and have added extra burping at feedings and we're keeping her upright all the time--including nap time--she sleeps in the swing. To top it all off, since E's not sucking deeply and long enough to get all the hind milk, I'm pumping half an ounce before each feeding. Are we exhausted yet?

All of this has required lots of help so Friday, my dear friend and her happy happy boy (who gives me hope for Elizabeth's future) came to help. We had a great day and things seemed to be going well. Saturday, Adam was my wingman, but little Betty (does that nickname work?) seemed to revert to old behavior and was cranky and ate poorly. I've spoken with the LC and we're going to track my diet to see what else it might be and keep up with the exercises and the pumping. And so it goes on.

Sometimes I get weary. Why is this so hard? Should I just switch to formula? When I was pregnant, I had a number of dreams where I would be trying to suckle my baby, but no milk would come and she would get smaller and smaller until she'd disappear and I couldn't find her. To this day, the memory of those dreams brings tears to my eyes. I know Elizabeth won't starve. I know everything will be fine. But how will I get through this? Why can't I feed my child?

But then comes hope. Adam and a neighbor gave our baby a blessing Thursday night, the day we met with the consultant. Adam blessed her to continue to grow and that her stomach would be healed. He also gave me a blessing of comfort that I would have strength and patience and peace through all of this. I've spent more time on my knees this weekend than I can remember.

So that's why I'm not at church, though I long for the spirit the Sacrament brings. I suppose I should try to shower before Elizabeth wakes up and we go through the whole big production again. But I'll do whatever it takes. And I know the Lord is blessing us, though His ways and timing are not my own.

Friday, November 14, 2008

Obama Win Causes Obsessed Backers To See How Empty Lives Are

You're the best! Around!



So because we have a baby now we gave into the instant movie gratification of Netflix™. And one of the first complete movies we watched together was one Emily hadn't seen: Karate Kid. I don't know how that's possible either. We both couldn't get over Elizabeth Shue and her young-ness. I try to do that Mr. Miyagi thing some times, but my hands never get hot enough. And to set the record straight, Pat Morita is Japanese American not Korean (despite rumors). Emily thought Daniel LaRusso was a bit too pretty, but I don't agree. He's just suave.

Monday, November 10, 2008

The Sun Comes Out

Last night I had a revelation: I've been through this before and I know how to deal with it.

I also realized that I have a duty to Adam and my daughter to do my best and not give up.
Through the therapy I've already had, I've learned the tools to deal with this. I just needed to remember them and use them.

So here are my new commandments, or How to Beat Anxiety/Depression:

1. DO SOMETHING! ANYTHING! Doing nothing only makes you feel worse.
2. Read scriptures and pray every day.
3. Feelings aren't fact! Remind yourself that the bad thoughts/feelings you have aren't true. Don't believe Satan's lies.
4. Exercise.

Thanks so much for your comments, guys. I hope I didn't freak anyone out. So here's proof, courtesy of our brand-spankin' new iMac, (which I'm shocked Adam hasn't blogged about yet) that i'm feeling better.

(Please ignore the unmentionables hanging in the background.)

More thoughts



How Emily and I feel about the protests.

Saturday, November 8, 2008

On the couch...


No matter how many moms I talk to, I still feel like I'm absolutely alone in the world. I'm going crazy. Anyone mind if I use this blog as therapy? I know Adam probably will. Elizabeth is only 3 weeks old. This is the end of just the first week by ourselves. And I don't know if I can take it. I know my hormones are whack right now. But I haven't felt this anxious and depressed since after my mission. And that led to a lot of self-destructive behavior followed by therapy and medication. It's mostly at night. When Adam's not home. And sometimes when he is. He told me today it's getting hard for him to come home b/c when he does I'm such a wreck. I'm angry, irritable, and unpleasant to be around. I'm getting enough sleep--at least I think I am. Elizabeth is good about sleeping for long chunks (4-5 hours) in the night. I try to get out everyday--even for just a walk. I call my friends. I watch funny shows on TV to make myself laugh. But at the end of the day, everything gets so dark and I feel like I've lost everything and I'll never be free again and I don't know how I'll make it through another day. I just get so lonely. But it's not like my days are hard. I feed her. I help her settle down for naps. I rock and console her when she's fussy. I change diapers. I do at least one productive thing--like dishes or laundry. I even get to shower everyday. So why do I feel like I'm losing my mind and that I'll never be happy again? I'm supposed to be thrilled; so in love with this baby, right? Then why do I sometimes feel like running far far away? Like I want to disappear. Like a zombie? She's a beautiful baby. Adam is a wonderful husband. We're so blessed. So why am I weeping in despair?

Wednesday, November 5, 2008

This we believe


For us personally this issue boiled down to whether we know President Monson is a true prophet of God or not. It's a struggle though, because I know that many are hurt and wounded by these results. Those we know who are hurt by this outcome, please know our love and friendship for you has not changed. But nor has our clinging to the plan of happiness.

The Little Engine That Could

© Callie Shell/Aurora for Time
Caption: Two staffers had just passed this site and done two pull-ups. Not to be outdone, Obama did three with ease, dropped and walked out to make a speech. Missoula, Mont., 4/5/2008

Tuesday, November 4, 2008

And Life Goes On

Well it's Day 2 of Real Life. Adam is back at work, all our visitors have come and gone, and Baby Elizabeth and I are adjusting to each other and life at home. And I have a sneaking suspicion we have it pretty easy. All last week, I rode an emotional rollercoaster that would go up when Elizabeth had a good feeding, and WAY WAY down when she would fuss and only eat 5 minutes at a time. I was convinced she was going to die. So yesterday, in my new mom madness, I went with my best Brooklyn bud to the post office to weigh Elizabeth on the self-serve scale. (Once in car seat, once just car seat, then subtract. Thank you, Sister Nay.) At her appointment last Wednesday, she'd gained a whopping 11 oz. But her next appointment wasn't for two months and here I was, wondering if she was going to wither away b/c she didn't seem to be eating enough. But, of course, the scale proved otherwise (as the wet and poopy diapers should have, too): she's gained another 7 ounces. Oh, the relief! I burst into tears. But the rest of the day was really calm and things are starting to feel a little more normal. And, not to jinx ourselves, but she so far has been sleeping really, I mean really well at night. I'll feed her between 9 and 11 PM, she'll go down fine. Wake up anywhere from 2 to 4 AM, feeds again, then is down until it's time for Adam to get up for work. Normal? Healthy? I'll be asking the pediatrician today when I call with my huge list of questions. But for now, we're not complaining.

Here are some pics from Grandma Davis' visit. Thanks, Mom, for everything!
At Green-Wood Cemetery. What a place to take a newborn, huh?

In Sunset Park

Adam's parents also came to visit, but unfortunately we don't have any pictures of them just yet. Adam blessed Elizabeth at church and this is us after we got home. Do I look as exhausted as I felt?

He did a wonderful job and I cried the whole way through. Adam's family also brought the crib his dad made us, which is absolutely beautiful. When everything's set up in the nursery, we'll post more pictures. Until then, enjoy this picture of Elizabeth, where she's making my favorite face: "Oh boy! Time to eat!"